Wife stays with cheating Nel

2010-10-05 09:10

Pretoria - The wife of former Proteas bowler André Nel, has finally spoken publicly about the cheating scandal that has embroiled her husband, saying she would stand by him.

According to Gabisile Ndebele of The Times website, Deanne Weitz, who has been married to Nel since 2004, spoke on Talk Radio 702 about how hurt she was by the exposure of her husband's infidelity.

Weitz, who is expecting the couple's first child in April, said she was hurt by the people who were quick to judge her life and decide what actions she should take.

"André and I have done a series of counselling. We've done our fighting, we've done our crying, we've done it and we've sorted it out," she said.

"You guys just dragged it up and rubbed salt in a very sensitive wound.

On Wednesday, Nel's affair with 34-year-old blonde Latvian Jelena Kultiasova broke.

Nel confessed to "having sex twice, or three times", with Kultiasova during their two-week long affair while he was playing county cricket for Surrey last month.

On Thursday, two more women, a 29-year-old from Durban and 38-year-old single mother from London, came forward with details of love trysts they claimed to have had with the cricketer.

On Friday, Nel reportedly attempted to commit suicide.

Weitz confirmed that doctors had been called to the couple's swanky home in Irene outside of Pretoria after her husband tried to take his own life.

"I don't want to comment on that, André has hit rock bottom and he's lower than any person could be in his life. For a man, he is in a very, very bad place," she said on radio.

"I still love him. I'm extremely angry, extremely hurt, extremely confused, but I love him and we still need to decide what he is going to do and what I am going to do," she said.

"He needs to rectify his way back to God."

This is not the first time Nel has made the news - for the wrong reasons.

Nel has always been a fiery character on the field and blames it on his alter-ego, 'Gunter'.

Nel first made the headlines in February 2001 when he felled his hero Allan Donald with a fierce bouncer during a domestic first-class match. Although Nel burst into tears when Donald was forced to leave the field, it later emerged that he was following instructions from coach Ray Jennings to target South Africa's premier fast bowler.

In 2003 Nel was sent home from the South Africa 'A' tour of Australia after being stopped by Tasmanian police and found to be driving under the influence of alcohol.

Later that year, during the tour of the West Indies, Nel, along with four team-mates, was found guilty of smoking dagga.

In a 2005 Boxing Day Test match at the Melbourne Cricket Ground he was the subject of racial taunts, in Afrikaans, from fans. 

In early 2009, Nel was banned for three matches after reports of abusive language in an MTN40 Championship match between the Cape Cobras and Highveld Lions.

In May this year, his English county Surrey suspended Nel for two matches following continued on-pitch controversies.

Nel played 36 Tests for the Proteas, taking 123 wickets in the process. He also played 79 ODIs (126 wickets) and two Twenty20 internationals (two wickets).


  • eric - 2010-10-05 09:24

    Anyone who has never done wrong let him cast the first stone.

  • DeonL - 2010-10-05 09:39

    When she left him he tried killing himself, this was only a way to get her back. He messed up his and her life, I hope she sees through him and leaves him, he is not husband or father material!

  • Realis - 2010-10-05 09:42

    Siestog, bly maar by hom - ek hoop net nie die onsekerheid vreet jou op nie! Wees realisties, sal jy hom OOIT weer vertrou - 100% vertrou? Jou lewe het verander in 'n nagmerrie, arme mens! Voorspoed!

  • woman - 2010-10-05 09:43

    poeple must stop interfering in other poeple's affairs why r they going on , i think they should be writing about the women that get involved with married men and disgrace them . well done Deanne , you did not meet your man through the media so it will not break your life

  • AB - 2010-10-05 09:45

    Good comment from a mature wife. Well done Deanne and God bless.

  • Basie - 2010-10-05 09:46

    If there is ANYBODY whose life is faultless you may throw the first stone

  • plonker - 2010-10-05 09:46

    i like cheatin 2. pay me a vist so that we can propose a trip to hillbrow bru.

  • Dimples - 2010-10-05 09:50

    Deanne you are silly he will do this again and again, but good luck girl I hope u go for tests

  • Tshegofatso - 2010-10-05 09:51

    "Nothing on earth can stop the Man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal;nothing on earth can help the Man with the wrong mental attitude".

  • steven - 2010-10-05 09:52

    She will stay - but only for a while.

  • MB - 2010-10-05 09:55

    Just a normal guy like you and I.

  • STEVEN - 2010-10-05 09:58

    Yeah Yeah!! She will stay but only for a while.

  • Sparky - 2010-10-05 10:00

    I can understand the wife's pain and anger towards the media, but sorry there is only one person to blame and that is Andre.Being a celebrity comes with pros and cons.Cons being that if you miss behave the media will expose you in a bad light.While he was with all these women was he thinking about his unborn child?????

  • Anonymus - 2010-10-05 10:07

    The top Sportsmen are all the same , about 2 years before I met my wife she had a "boyfriend" who was a very well known rugby player and a Springbok . She met him when he was on tour here for the Super Rugby tournament . He even took her to Ernie Elses birthday party ! Now for the Bomb shell , she concidered him to be her boyfriend until at work one day someone showed her the You Magazine and on the front cover was Mr "X" and the caption was " Mr X the Family man " and a photo of him and his wife with their two children !!! She broke it off with him but he still tried his luck every time he was here for rugby , he even used to phone her at work . His Super Rugby team had a tradition that at the end of a tour who ever did not have sex on tour had to do "Down Downs"

  • Ian Rhodes - 2010-10-05 10:08

    So many persons have denigrated Andre Nel and in doing so have, as his wife says, quote "rubbed salt in a very sore wound". I trust that all of you who have adopted the "holier than thou" stance, can really look at yourselves in the mirror and honestly say that you have led absolutely sinless lives? By the way, I do not know Andre Nel or his family, but I just get extremely annoyed at those elements of our self righteous public out there who just love kicking a man when he is down and hide behind the screen of their PC's in doing so! To the Nel's, I trust and pray that you will find a way to mend your marriage.

  • Wern - 2010-10-05 10:10

    It's something that they have to sort out themselves, nothing we say or do will change anything about their situation. Leave them alone to settle thing between them. I hope everything works out for the good. They are expecting their first child and a he/she will need a father. I must admit, looking at all the comments i didnt know there were so many people who never made a mistake or did something that they will regret and hurt somebody else. Good for you. The best wishes for the two of you

  • Birdman - 2010-10-05 10:11

    Who cares? It happens to many people and nobody gives a hoot.

  • Jannie Stap - 2010-10-05 10:12

    Marry a celeb and takes your chances

  • Nakkie - 2010-10-05 10:16

    This has nothing to do with him who cast the first stone etc...... bull****t. True, everybody are full of sin and I don't judge him, but I do think his wife is stupid for taking him back, you often see this with celebs and sports people, I'm standing by my man just to divorce months later, once a cheater always a cheater! I have friends who decided to stay with their "cheating" husbands, because they cannot give up their luxury lives, I'd rather be poor and happy.

  • Graham - 2010-10-05 10:17

    Hey all you w****rs who have so much to say and are so innocent, perfect in your own life and full of wisdom, so quick to condemn and interfere with situations that you know nothing about. May a cricket ball connect your head and knock some sense into it. Difficult as solid bone would not respond. Try doing something positive like contributing to the SPCA.

  • @realis - 2010-10-05 10:17

    Totally agree. Been there done that....Wife had affair in 03, I did the honourable thing stayed and forgave. Was never the same again after that (it really eats you up mentally),she had one again in 05 and needless to say we divorced in 07. I honestly hope Deanne makes it through,cause I was never able to totally wipe the episode from my mind......

  • Skoor - 2010-10-05 10:20

    Mev. Nel - kwessie van tyd voor jy hom los. Raak sterk, raak rustig. Jou ongebore baba het jou nodig. Sterkte. Iewers is daar miskien iemand wat jou sal RESPEKTEER en wat selfrespek ook het. Hulle is maar yl gesaai, maar hierdie man verdien jou nie!

  • Wendy - 2010-10-05 10:21

    She is, I am sure, a good woman and wise. He does not deserve her. She is asking for years and years of misery. He sounds like a selfish, egotistical person who will never change. Read the litany of past bad behaviour in your article.

  • christina - 2010-10-05 10:23

    "People who needs people" Barbara Streisand sang. When celebs need the media all is find, but boy let things go wrote and they blame the media. Another Joost & Kie story. Pretty soon she'll pack her bags ...

  • Mixed emotions - 2010-10-05 10:25

    Andre Nell is a doosh! Always had a bad attitude and couldn't even realise the world and his own country were embarressed by his antics on the cricket field. Now this! His poor wife but why on earth does she stay with him??? All the truth always comes out so becareful what you do when you think you on top of the world - you not as cool as you think. Everyone deserves forgiveness, I'm sure he is drowning in regret and guilt, so lets hope he picks himself up and learns from this so that he can teach his future child how to live a decent and upstanding life. May God be with the Nells!

  • marinda - 2010-10-05 10:26

    I think Deanne needs all the love and support she can get. She must be one great lady. I can just imagine the hurt and pain she is feeling right now and this is supposed to be such a happy time for her - expecting her first child. May she find peace and happiness in whatever she decides for the future.

  • Robbie - 2010-10-05 10:29

    Deanne, Dit was die beter keuse. Die lewe gaan oor keuses. Jy het gekies om by jou man te staan. God ons reeds vergewe, en dit stel ons instaat om mekaar te vergewe. Julle moet nou albei tergkom op julle kniee en so n voorbeeld stel aan baie daar buite. Maak reg wat verkeerd gedoen is. Julle sal in ons gesin se gebede bly. Sterkte met die pad vorentoe.

  • pietdut - 2010-10-05 10:31

    Out goes Andrè with a bang!!! Nag Nella!

  • wendy - 2010-10-05 10:32

    Why is everyone always blaming the third party when a sportmen's behaviour becomes known? I say its the CHEATER who needs to be dealt with and punished - not the wife or lover scorned

  • G-force - 2010-10-05 10:34

    Just leave them alone.

  • RiaanB - 2010-10-05 10:34

    If a normal person stray it's not all over the papers. Let them sort out their own problems.

  • Cecile - 2010-10-05 10:39

    Not only a wife cheater, a coward too! Tried to commit suicide, oh please man - he's a cheating p***y! Poor wife and kid-to-be!!

  • Pitzi-NC - 2010-10-05 10:42

    It's despicable that he'd rob her off her anger and mourning with a selfish suicide attempt. I bet it was all orchestrated. What a flop - he even failed to kill himself properly.

  • Emmanuel Kwinda - 2010-10-05 10:42

    I salute Deanne for standing alongside her husband, Nel is also a human being who happen to be on the wrongside of things. I hope tha he will learn out the scadal. However Nel deserve forgiveness and support so that he can see the light.

  • sanele - 2010-10-05 10:44

    love is a gift from God she must be stand by her husband and pray for him to stop this demonic behavior.

  • C.A - 2010-10-05 10:47

    Hmm. Now he is sorry and suicidal. He sure wasn't when he was busy with these woman. And really, surely these sport stars now that when they cheat , these sleazy women will expose them. All they want is their bit of fame . Wake up!

  • Respect - 2010-10-05 10:47

    Good choice for the moment Deanne, but you will find out that it will not be the same as before. you will withdraw and he will start his cheating all over again. As much as you "love" this guy your self respect is more important.Remember Andre at all times you have to think to much of yourself to selfishly destroy another persons life.

  • @DeonL - 2010-10-05 10:49

    If they wanted your advice, they would have come to you for councelling? What do you know anyway? They have defenitely been advised not to read the news articles and comments in the media anymore as well, so you are all wasting your time trying to advise them here. Let them live their own lives and make their own decisions. If you have nothing positive to add, then keep it to yourselves.

  • Simon Says - 2010-10-05 10:49

    They've been through counselling and are trying to work through it and this has brought it up again? WHAT THE HELL? He cheated last month for 2 weeks ... how can this be old news to Deanne? How can he possibly be expected to be rehabilitated?

  • Ally - 2010-10-05 10:49

    Thank you for standing up against the media & comments Deanne.All these people who think the need to tell you how bad your husband is & what you should do.Remember they don't really know how you feel or what you going through & remember we all make mistakes & God is a very forgiving God.I know the bible warns us about adultery,but the bible also talked about repenting your sins & asking for forgiveness & who are we to judge.May God guide you & André & help you through your time of healing.

  • Ang - 2010-10-05 10:53

    Who are we to judge others? We are all guilty of something in our lives and we need to look at forgiveness as a way to healing. One never forgets but forgiveness is key for everyone. People need second chances but if you go off the rails again you strike out, All the best with working out this unfortuate situation.

  • Mesh - 2010-10-05 10:55

    It is the time now people of all races acknowledge the importance of polygamy. Look! They are practising it in a wrong way! Marry your four women butie and stop cheating!

  • LB - 2010-10-05 10:59

    Sorry, maar vat 'n blaadjie uit Tiger Woods se boekie. Skei en laat hom aangaan soos hy ieg wil. dan het niemand iets te se nie.

  • Rose - 2010-10-05 11:00

    His Affairs have not got anything to do with anyone just leave them alone and if you have nothing positive to say than say nothing at all. Let them get on with their lives in peace

  • Pitzi-NC - 2010-10-05 11:06

    To all the christians: this has nothing to do with God but more with doG. Andre is a national embarassment. I'm holding thumbs he tries of off himself again, and that he'd pull it off then.

  • CraigE - 2010-10-05 11:07

    No man, it wasn't Andre - it was that darn Gunter!

  • Graham - 2010-10-05 11:08

    It's rather funny.....a few years back a friend of mine was friends with a certain cricketer and she told him she would love to have a little thing with Mr Coward Nel.....this guy told her to keep away from him as it's quite disgusting what he gets up to.....

  • Arra - 2010-10-05 11:11

    Sanel if she must pray for him because he has A demonic behavoir as you sald. Please get somebody to pray for you because you have the same problem "Demonic Judgment" get a life please

  • patrick - 2010-10-05 11:15

    TIGER NEL has a nice ring to it!

  • john - 2010-10-05 11:23

    Leave the poor people alone.Yes he was wrong and they will have to deal with it the way they know how,why make it more difficult for them?We were all saying how great he was when he was giving the aussies hell,now all of a sudden we treat him like crap?Not fair.